We all deal with up's and down's from time to time. Our lives take turns we are not prepared for. But should we allow those twists and turns to cause us to lash out at others? When we are dealing with difficulties we need to be extra careful not to allow our emotions to rule our actions. What if the person that you just were snappy with is facing a difficult week too? What if they are struggling with something mighty and scary and confusing? The golden rule 'treat others as you would like to be treated' is important. It's not 'treat others however you want because you feel bad and being mean or yelling might make you feel better'. No, it isn't.
I try very hard to treat others with respect and care. I am not always successful. I make mistakes because I am very human. In fact those closest to me would tell you that I am often way off mark. This week my family received some scary news. News that could have made me lash out at anyone and everyone....and I did to a certain extent...and I might still. But I have realized I must take a step back to assess how to act and how to treat people. I have realized that taking a breath and asking myself, what would I see if I walked around in her body for a minute. What hurt is there? What struggle is there? When we take that time we can see clearly that we all have our struggles. We all deserve a moment, a breath of space to allow for forgiveness and compassion. These days when I am treated not as I would like to be treated I take a breath and remember that that person may have also had some difficult news this week or today. I let go and I forgive. Also, equally important, I realize that their anger or ire is not mine to take on. I do not have to accept it. I learned in yoga teacher training that we should not take anything personally. Not the compliment from the student who says 'that's the best class I have ever taken. IN MY WHOLE LIFE', nope, can't take that anymore than I can take the student who says 'You really screwed up my whole day'...nope, that's not mine either.
So I will try and I invite you to try as well to meet everyone with compassion and understanding and if you are not treated likewise ask yourself, what struggle is he dealing with that I don't know about. And see if your can allow your compassion and forgiveness to grow.
with respect and love, Emilie